Life has a gravitational pull. And the pull I feel is toward doing more. And I think that’s based on an assumption that more is more.
When our church was small, we didn’t do much, but when it began to grow bigger, we did more. When the kids were little, we didn’t have many activities for them. But as they grew older and more capable, the tendency is to enroll them many things to develop them. You start off in life with a small house, but the tendency is that as you get older and make more money, you buy a bigger house and accumulate more stuff. The underlying belief under all of this? More is more.
My problem with more is that I found it both overwhelming and ineffective. As I struggled to do more, it seemed like I accomplished less. As our church did more, I honestly feel that we became less effective at helping people grow spiritually. Even with two kids, our family was out almost every night of the week between church, music and sports. (If exhaustion was a measure of greatness, many families border on near-genius today.) And while we are still in the same house we first bought 11 years ago, I’m amazed at how much stuff accumulates without trying.
More becomes the default for most of us for these reasons:
- Life drifts toward complexity, not toward simplicity
- Life drifts toward more, not better or less
- Saying yes is easier than saying no
- Strategy takes thought and planning – doing “whatever” is much more natural
- Being reactive is much easier than being proactive
I no longer believe that more is more. That’s been a huge shift for me in the last three years. We’ll talk more about why tomorrow. For three years, I’ve been fighting the default of more, and ironically discovered that less leads to overflow.
In the meantime, check in for a minute about how “more” has been working for you. When do you feel overwhelmed? Why does your life keep moving toward “more”? To what extent do you believe that more is better? How has that belief served you over the years?
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